What do you do when you’re coping with feeling like nobody ever invitations you to do something and you might be lonely? My visitor on the podcast this week, Laura Tremaine, is the right particular person to assist me deal with this subject as a result of she has written a complete guide about it titled The Life Council: 10 Pals Each Girl Wants!
Laura joins me at the moment to debate friendship and neighborhood particularly on the subject of girls. She discusses how girls battle to make after which maintain associates as adults and the way the pandemic made the battle even worse for some folks, after which she recommends that we consider associates as a life council (therefore the title of her guide) of various kinds of individuals who every carry totally different strengths to our lives.
We additionally discuss how unrealistic expectations of others and of friendships might be dangerous as a result of they will result in disappointment. I like how she encourages us in sensible methods to go searching and see the items in folks already in our lives. It’s really easy to overlook that and to take these already in our lives with no consideration.
Laura additionally shares personally about recognizing her personal weaknesses (not prioritizing returning texts promptly sufficient and extra) and the way she labored on being extra intentional in these areas in an effort to present her associates love in ways in which can be significant to them. She additionally leaves listeners with some useful recommendation, encouraging lonely girls to not hand over, to maintain attempting with new associates however to do away with the narrative that they inform themselves that they’re unlikable. She challenges us to let go of holding too tightly to our concept of an ideal friendship to create space for appreciating the folks already in our lives and being in a wholesome area to permit new friendships to bloom.
Laura helps us perceive the way to reframe friendships and consider them from a brand-new perspective. Most of the issues she shared on this episode are issues I’ve thought of time and time once more since we recorded this.
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In This Episode
[00:35] – Please welcome Laura Tremaine to the present at the moment!
[02:08] – Laura and I’ve identified one another for years by running a blog
[03:35] – How running a blog anchored Laura and gave her a voice.
[04:32] – Why did Laura write her guide?
[06:50] – Laura shares why she thinks girls battle with friendships.
[09:15] – I share how I relate to Laura’s battle with sustaining friendships.
[12:15] – The which means behind the title of her guide.
[16:21] – I discuss some damaged relationships in my life.
[17:22] – How does Laura make sure that she’s bringing her greatest self into relationships?
[23:12] – Hear about how Laura needed to make certain that her emotions matched her actions.
[28:26] – Laura argues that popular culture doesn’t all the time painting friendship precisely.
[30:46] – What about those that really feel lonely and need neighborhood however really feel bored with attempting and reaching out?
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